My Wife's Take on Marriage

My wife was recently asked to a coffee date with one of her bible study friends at church. The friend is engaged, fixin' to get married, and -- scared to death. So, she asked my wife to reveal life's secrets to her, in an attempt to better wrap her head around marriage.

As the incredibly thorough person my wife is (I'm so blessed), she typed up a little page on what life is like after unbridled freedom and one too many trips out with your friends (okay, that might be my little addition).

Without further ado, my wife's comments:

Wedding Planning:

The wedding planning is FULL of decisions, and planning, planning, planning. The moment the ceremony is over, STOP. Don’t plan, Don’t worry, Don’t bring up questions… the reception and honeymoon should be relaxing, worry-free, and spontaneous. If you can let yourself go then you and your Husband will have a Great Time.

Identity Crisis:

Becoming a wife is not like graduating high school and suddenly you’re college student. It takes time, work, and growth; much like our relationship with God. We are God’s child instantaneously, just how we become wife instantaneously at the wedding, but it takes a lifetime to learn both.

Honeymoon:

They’re not like the movies, but are special, incredibly intimate, and unique to the two of you. You’ll wind up thankful that they are not like the movies.

The Art of Becoming One:

The Art of Becoming One does not happen the moment you kiss, but happens over time.

Arguing:

The first six months will be as romantic as all get out as well as a trial. It will stretch the two of you while you learn to argue, learn to live together, learn how to be married. This is the part of becoming one.

Communication:

You think you know him, but just wait. You will think that you are saying “1+1=2” and he is going to argue with you that the answer is not 16, and why would you even say that, and then tell you “2-1=1.” It will both leave you tired from a word-whirlwind of misunderstanding, and completely stumped about how it started in the first place. This isn’t arguing, this is just daily confusion. Over time, you’ll learn how to communicate effectively by learning each other’s communication techniques. More importantly, and the more difficult, is that you will also learn to change and to adapt to better understand each other.

Love:

Marriage is so that two people can spoil each other.

Quirks:

This is the funny part about marriage that will make you laugh every day. Truth: Things that you do are going to pester him. I have no idea why it matters to him that my purse is unorganized, but it does. Him using my towel when he gets out of the shower instead of his is going to pester me. Just laugh. :)